A note to my daughter: Seven attributes that make a husband worth the trouble (8 items)
Sweetheart, you are at an age when the possibility of you finding the “man of your dreams” will become more and more of a reality over the next several years.
I know that once you are involved emotionally, it will be hard to offer you any advice that may seem to be negative or non-supportive.
For this reason, allow me to suggest the following seven ”potential husband” attributes that I think you should look for as you filter through the muddy swamp full of men to find the one who sparkles for you.
Gary and Joey Larson have spent much of the last 20 years residing in both Florida and Utah. They have four children, a new daughter-in-law and their first grandchild on the way.
Gary received his bachelor's degree at Princeton University and his MBA at Brigham Young University. He also served a two-year LDS church mission to Chile. He writes a weekly blog found at www.highfiveyourlife.com. His recent book, “HighFive Your Life,” shares, through personal stories and experiences, how we can find the silver lining in our day-to-day trials.
1 of 8. Self-confident
If he is comfortable with himself in the purest of ways, if his self-confidence is not based on other’s opinions, he will be able to love you in ways that reach far beyond the “tall, dark and handsome” mannequin in the window.
His self-confidence will manifest itself daily because even when things get tough, he will not second guess himself in choosing you as a wife or in his ability to take care of you.
2 of 8. Industrious
It will be temporary, and you and he will work yourselves out of it. The weary bones and muscles that you will endure together as the decades pass by will be a balm to your souls.
I am sure that he will be able to take care of you and your family if he is industrious and a hard worker. An additional benefit you will receive if he is industrious will be that your children will have a better chance of learning how to work and how to relate effort to outcome and expectations.
You must make sure that your children learn the difference between caring for the needy and enabling the lazy. A husband who works hard for his family will help toward this end immensely.
3 of 8. Respectful
We want to know that he respects you as a person and appreciates the wisdom, intellect and opinions that we have spent our lives helping you develop.
If he respects you, he will not try to dominate you. If he respects you, his love will always stay vibrant and will survive the tough times that are sure to come. If he respects you, he will love you as a person not just as his wife or the mother of his children. If he respects you, he will defend you and your honor and your passions and will always stand amazed at his good fortune to be your husband.
4 of 8. Committed
We will see you at family gatherings and vacations and look forward to visits with the grandkids, but you will belong to each other and that will become the most important bond in your life.
Decisions on where to raise your kids and how to raise your kids will be a joint decisions between the two of you. Though you may get advice and counsel from the outside, a partner that is committed to finding the solutions that are comfortable for both of you will create more peace and harmony in your relationship.
5 of 8. Joyful
I hope that he loves life. I hope that he is kind to you and to those around him. I hope that you enjoy being around each other and that laughter rings throughout your home even if you find entertainment in laughing at your own mistakes and foibles. I hope that you enjoy just being with him, that a car ride across the country with him would be entertaining to you because of his ability to create happiness amidst the misery.
A smile on your face is worth far more than anything that money can buy.